Oftentimes, I think of my mother and some specific words of wisdom that she imparted on myself and my siblings. She said, “the only hands you can depend on are the ones at the end of your wrist”. I didn’t fully understand what she meant at that time in my life. However, as I began my life’s journey her words eventually became glaringly clear.
These hands of mine throughout this declaration of self-sufficiency will, in turn, impart my hard earned wisdom upon you. Most of us know someone that always seems to need or ask for support rather than depending on the hands at the end of their wrists. During my early years of life, there were men that I encountered that manipulated and exploited women. I don’t support this type of lifestyle. These guys so arrogantly called themselves pimps. They encouraged women to dishonor themselves and their bodies, (to show their love for them) and provide for monetary gain for them rather than depending on their own hands.
In life, we promote self-sufficiency in our children and want them to do better. Even before coronavirus statistics revealed that many young adults chose to reside with their parents. That way they could maintain a particular lifestyle and not have to bear the total financial burden. These young adults depend on others for their support when they should aim to use their hands at the end of their wrists to take care of themselves.
Then some look to the government for support and assistance. Don’t get me wrong, some individuals truly need the help and support of governmental programs. Everyone needs support from time to time but those of us that are capable should never become comfortable with depending on others. For those that want to use the system for their personal gain and take the easy way out to you, I say “beware”. This is self-sabotage, for at some point karma will raise its ugly head and all the scheming will come back to haunt you. When you exploit the system for your own selfish needs you are depending on the hands of others.
As I sit here today and reflect on my mother’s words to myself and my siblings those words still resonate very loudly. When we as individuals depend on other hands to support us we run the risk of those other hands not being there when we need them. Even today I think of those empty men that considered themselves to be pimps. Those men intentionally took advantage of women for their own personal gain, never considering the women’s feelings. They called themselves pimps but ultimately the only pimping done was on them. When the other hands that you used solely for your benefit finally awake from the manipulative sleep that you lulled them into and say “no” where will you be?
You will be subject to hunger, homelessness, and hopelessness. The reality of my mother’s words never left me, “the only hands you can depend on are the ones at the end of your wrists”. In other words “God bless the child that has its own”. Please give us a thumbs up and a share!!!!
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